In these posts, we explore the concept of love. What is love, and how do the components of intimacy, passion and commitment influence the love we feel for someone else? How do our dreams, hopes and narratives influence what kind of partner and love we search for?
Are you feeling uncertain about the state of your relationship? Should you try to save it, or are you better off just calling it quits? Your decision-making gets even more complicated when you consider children, shared financial assets, debts, as well as your lives, which have been intricately linked over a long period of time …
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Have you ever been in a relationship where you wondered “Why am I so negative towards my partner?” Or maybe it’s your partner who keeps being overly critical. What do you do when someone only sees the bad in you? The Secret Years ago, I came across Maria (not her real name!) over a couple …
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In this video, you’ll learn about the value about calming down quickly and being in control of your emotions, discover three easy techniques to calm down in any situation, and realize that, with a bit of practice, you, too, can be more calm and mindful. Before you dive in, there’s a few things I want …
In this article, we will discuss ways to make your everyday life and relationship happier without your partner doing anything; and share a number of science-backed tweaks and habits that can have a big impact on your happiness. Every relationship has its ups and downs. In fact, life has its ups and downs. That’s totally …
How to be Happier in Your Relationship (without Involving Your Partner) Read More »
Searching in vain for the perfect Valentine’s Day When I was young, I loved paintings by Norman Rockwell. I spent so much time looking at them. They depicted a lovely Americana that we all wish we remembered. But we don’t remember it—not really–because it never quite existed. It is the stuff that fantasists’ dreams are …
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A genre of fiction and especially of science fiction is one in which people innocently wander into a place and then cannot escape it. We often find a similar scenario when people stay in unhappy relationships. In the screen adaptation of Stephen King’s Crouch End, for example, two characters, Lonnie and Doris Freeman, wander into …
The younger ones among you may be faced, now or at some point in your future, with the decision of whether or not to have children. Having children is quite different from imagining what it’s like to have children. In this article, we’ll discuss the potential effects of having children on a couple’s finances and …
Flying through dense clouds, John F. Kennedy, Jr., crashed his plane. He apparently became disoriented and was not sure whether he was going up, down, or level. It is unfortunate, but that can happen when it is hard to see: One cannot get one’s bearings. This also can happen in relationships. Sometimes, we become uncertain …
Every intimate relationship has a power balance, and that power balance is different for every couple. The balance of power may change over time and the type of situation with which a couple is dealing, but the balance is always there. If a particular power balance works depends on two factors What matters most are …
When you enter a relationship, the first thing you think about, most likely, is whether you love your partner or whether you think you will fall in love with your partner. That can keep you going for a while, sometimes, for quite a while. And yet, there are so many things that can bring down …