Should I Stay or Should I Go?

The world's first toolbox designed to guide you in moving forward and making a decision when you're stuck in a struggling relationship.

Should I Stay or Should I Go is the world's only toolbox that was specifically created to help you confidently make a decision about the future of your relationship by

  • helping you evaluate your relationship from several perspectives with our relationship assessment; rather than staying caught up in your emotions
  • considering critical questions you need to ask before making a decision, and
  • creating a step-by-step plan to follow through with your decision and find happiness again, whether you stay or you go.
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Let's Talk about Who This Is Really For...

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You've been in your relationship for a long time, and possibly too long.  It's too painful to keep going as is, but you don't know what to do.

If you

  • have been married or in a relationship for an extended period of time
  • are unhappy in your relationship and want to take a step back to see whether your relationship can be saved or whether it is better to call it quits,
  • are at the point where making a decision is better than staying caught in limbo and misery
  • you are tired of hearing other people's opinions and wish you had a solid basis on which to make your decision
  • are terrified of making a decision nevertheless because you're not sure you can properly anticipate the implications of staying or leaving're in the right place!

By the end of the program, you will have...

a good understanding of what makes or breaks a relationship

a new sense of where your relationship is at with the help of our cutting-edge relationship assessment, which has been shown to work in 25 countries

identified the key areas where your relationship is lacking

considered key questions and their implications as they relate to improving your relationship or separating/initiating a divorce

clarity to make a thoughtful decision as to whether you want to attempt to improve your relationship or end it

created a custom-tailored plan for how to improve your relationship, if you wish to do so

created a custom-tailored plan for how to prepare for separation/divorce and how to break the subject with your partner, if you wish to do so

created a personal plan for how to keep sane during this stressful time

“I felt so entrenched in my relationship that it was hard to see clearly. Dr. Karin's relationship assessment helped me to view my relationship from a new perspective and gain important insights so I could feel comfortable making a decision about the future.”

L. M.


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Here's what others have to say

“I had known for a long time that it was time to move on but always had some doubt in the back of my mind. Getting some non-judgmental and accepting feedback on my relationship finally enabled me to go ahead and begin a new life.”

S. J.

“I used to compare our relationship to what a marriage “should” be, but I now understand what I personally need to be happy in a relationship. That new understanding helped me better appreciate what I have and work on aspects that are important to me but that I miss in our relationship.”

M. R.

“It turns out that taking action is so much easier than being stuck in limbo for years.”

B. T.

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What’s Inside Should I Stay or Should I Go

Understand what True Compatibility looks like for you personally. You can only judge if you’re (still) compatible with a person if you know which characteristics, needs, and desires really matter in terms of good fit with a partner. These attributes are mostly unconscious, so understanding what really matters is the first step in making a decision.

Get an In-Depth Scientific Relationship assessment that shows you the true state of your relationship. Take a look at what you REALLY have, rather than viewing your relationship through the lens of conflict and hurt feelings, or relying on other people’s opinions.

Make a decision about the future of your relationship with confidence by working through non-judgmental guiding questions that ensure, before you make your decision, that you haven’t neglected any important aspects of that decision.

Plus -- get these awesome bonuses!

Once you’ve made your decision, you will not be left alone – no matter whether you choose to stay or go.

To help you prepare for your next steps, you’ll also get:

$69 Value

A Step-by-Step Workbook to create a customized plan to restore your relationship.

  • Follow our workbook to figure out which areas of your relationship need the most work, and where you should even start.
  • Decide if you want to talk with your partner, and if so, prepare for a conversation and learn about the Do’s and Don’ts.
  • Develop concrete action steps you can implement in your life.
  • Assess your progress and change course, if necessary.

$99 Value

A Concise Guide to Separation and Divorce

  • Feel confident you’re making the right decision by completing a workbook designed to help you consider your relationship, the path to a life without your partner, and the implications of a separation/divorce
  • Choose the right path for you by learning about the differences between separation, legal separation, and divorce, as well as different paths to divorce
  • Prepare for your separation/divorce using our checklists and worksheets to protect your finances/assets, plan for your children (if you have any), and consider other matters.
  • Prepare for “the conversation” with our worksheets and tip sheets, which will help you consider what to say (and what not to say), choose a location, and perhaps most importantly, enter the right mindset.
  • Create a plan how to stay sane during this critical and challenging period, including your physical and mental well-being as well as ways to find support.

With Should I Stay or Should I Go, you can finally

Make a decision with confidence about the future of your relationship

using our exclusive scientific relationship assessment, which has been validated on more than 60,000 people in more than 25 countries, as well as a workbook guiding you through the decision-making process.

Identify the shortcomings of your relationship and create a customized plan to remediate them

choose concrete action steps, assess your progress, and adjust as necessary (should you choose this path for your relationship)

Prepare for your separation/divorce

by considering the implications of your actions, making crucial preparations for the separation/divorce, planning how to have “the conversation” while minimizing the risk that things will get out of hand, and creating a personal wellness program to stay sane and fit while your life is in transition.

How much is your own happiness worth to you?

Consider all the months or even years you have spent in uncertainty and despair because your relationship doesn’t seem to be going anywhere.  But you can’t make up your mind if your relationship can (and should) be saved, or if it’s time for a new beginning.

Don’t stay caught in desperate uncertainty any longer!


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Plus: You’ll Be Backed by a Risk-Free 14-Day Guarantee

You’ve been wondering where to go with your relationship for so long, you’ve talked with friends and perhaps counselors or therapists, you’ve read books and blog posts, and you may have invested in relationship-improvement programs.

But ultimately, the decision is yours and yours alone.  It is one of the most important decisions you will make in your life. Do you give your relationship another try, or is it time to go?

Here’s why you can place confidence in our money-back guarantee and put your anxiety aside:

Take a couple of weeks to complete the assessment and work through the exercises and worksheets of Should I Stay or Should I Go. You will gain new insights into the state of your relationship and create a solid basis on which to make a decision, as well as take the first well-founded steps in whatever direction you have chosen.

If you don’t feel that Should I Stay or Should I Go has provided you with more clarity to make a decision and move forward with confidence, simply reach out within 14 days of receipt of your package and we’ll refund your investment. Get the full details here.


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If you’re thinking “this sounds just like what I need but I’m still not 100% sure,” keep reading…

You should give Should I Stay or Should I Go a 14-day risk-free try if you’re motivated by any of the following:


You want to be happy again. Badly.

You haven’t felt happy and fulfilled in your relationship for a long time. Every day is a struggle and you don’t want to keep going as things are. You realize that life could be so much more, and yet here you are – stuck in a situation that not only makes you (and possibly your partner) feel miserable, but you’re not sure how to make things better.


You’ve waited and lingered long enough to realize that there is no “perfect time” and waiting won’t solve anything.

You’ve exercised patience--lots of patience. You have thought things might get better again if you just stick it out. You’re afraid to make a decision about the future of your relationship. But you’ve gotten to the point where you realize that staying in your current situation for years will be ultimately much more painful than taking action. No matter what course of action you take – anything is better than things staying as they are.


You realize the time has come for you to make a decision.

Things have not been going well and you’ve now reached the point where you can’t keep going anymore. You ask yourself whether your relationship can be saved (and how would you do that, anyway?), or whether it is better to call it quits. But much is at stake and you feel you owe it to yourself and your partner (and possibly, children) to make a decision that’s based on more than hurt feelings and fear.


You realize that if things are going to change for the better, you’ll have to be the one to initiate change.

You know, and your partner probably knows too, that things are not going well. Or maybe your partner refuses to admit to any problems. Either way, so far, your insight that things have gone downhill hasn’t gotten you anywhere. Maybe your partner has given up hope and has become more passive with time, or maybe your partner just doesn’t want to work with you to make things better. But you can’t go on like this anymore. Maybe you’re sure what your ideal future will hold, or maybe you’re still wondering – but you realize that you’ll have to be the one to take the initiative, and you wish you had some support in making your decision.


You “kind of” know in which direction you want to take your relationship, but you need some affirmation that you’re doing the right thing.

You’ve known for a while now that things are over. But separating is not that easy when you’re an adult – your life is intertwined with that of your partner, you share responsibilities and a household, you have accrued assets together, and you may have children. The stakes are high. But your happiness is at stake as well. You’d love to have a better foundation on which to solidly base your decision, and to make sure that you know what you’re getting yourself into.


Although things are going badly, you care too much about your partner and your dependents to risk making a decision that is not well founded.

You have a lot of responsibility, toward your partner and your children, but also toward yourself. Living in a household marked by conflict and discord, or by silence and indifference, neither does your children nor you and your partner any good. Something has to give. But you’re so entrenched in your emotions and conflict that you are not sure you can see clearly enough to make a decision. Is it worth saving your relationship, and how do you go about it? Or would it be better for everyone if you went your separate ways, amicably, if possible? You’ll need to have confidence in your way forward before you make a decision.

Making a decision about the future of your relationship is one of the biggest and most important decisions you’ll ever make in your life.

You’re aware of your responsibilities and you are not one to make crucial decisions easily.

But you are also aware of the mounting toll your struggling relationship takes on you, your partner, and your dependents.

Uncertainty, fear, and dread are normal when you wonder about the future of your relationship. You feel paralyzed and don’t know where to turn.

You may feel like you’re alone in this situation, and that things are going well for everyone but you. But that’s not true. Many people are in a similar situation to yours – they just don’t talk about it. (You probably don’t share your struggles on social media or with anyone you happen to talk to, either).

There are tremendous costs to separation, emotionally and financially, but the cost of staying together when you’re both miserable is just as high, if not higher. So whatever decision you make, it has to be the one that’s right for you and your family.

I’ve created Should I Stay or Should I Go specifically to assist you with making one of the most consequential decisions of your life. A one-of-a-kind program in the world, it offers you new perspectives on your relationship and creates a solid basis for you to consider your unique situation and to make a sound decision.

You will make a decision that is based on relationship science and research studies that have been conducted with over 60,000 people in more than 25 countries around the world – showing that our framework works.

Your decision-making process is of crucial importance, and it should take place in an atmosphere that is non-judgmental and compassionate, that spells out your options, and that recognizes that the only “right” decision is the one that works for you and your family.

And your decision should take into account a deep analysis of what is and is not going well in your relationship, whether and how you can attempt to fix the issues you’re experiencing, and what the implications of a separation would be.

No matter what you decide to do, it won’t be easy. Revitalizing a struggling relationship takes a lot of work, stamina, and commitment. Going through a separation or divorce is taxing and costly in its own ways.

You can do hard things, and you have it in you to make the right decision.

You are not alone, and I am here to guide you along.

Let’s begin your new future today, responsibly and confidently.  You can do this!

All my best,

Dr. Karin


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