Thank you for purchasing the Should I Stay or Should I Go Toolbox
I’m honored that you have placed your trust in me in a difficult situation. You are not alone. Relationships are hard, and it’s easy for things to go awry. There’s no shame in having a struggling relationship, but not everyone is up for taking the initiative and trying to improve the situation in one way or another.
You are extraordinary because you have already shown that
- you care enough about your relationship (and your dependents, if you have any) that you don’t want to keep going as is. You realize that, for everyone to be happy, things need to change, and you’re willing to step up to the plate and work to make things better, one way or another.
- you take your responsibilities seriously. You realize that much is at stake and the decision you make (alone or with your partner) needs to be right for everyone involved. You think things through and are willing to invest time and effort to make sure that you’re going the right way.
Many people remain in their struggling relationship because it is just too painful or anxiety-provoking to consider where the relationship’s shortcomings are and how a good relationship can be restored, or whether it may be time to end the relationship.
I’ve been doing research on relationships and writing about love for many years, and I am happy to share with you a toolbox that I am absolutely convinced will help see more clearly and will assist you in finding a way forward.
As you work your way through your toolbox, you will...
...learn about the unconscious factors that make or break your relationship: Having a solid understanding of why people are happy or unhappy in their relationships gives you a better basis to understand your own relationship and build a relationship that you can expect to last a long time and be a happy one
...take a fresh look at your relationship with our relationship assessment that’s been used by more than 60,000 people in 25 countries. It’s hard to see things clearly when you’re stuck in disagreements, unhappiness, and revolving conflict. Our assessment will provide you with a new perspective of what you currently have in your relationship, and what you need for your happiness.
...find compassionate guidance as you consider crucial questions concerning the future of your relationship. At no point will you be pressured to make a decision one way or the other – any decisions are yours to make because ultimately, you know what’s best.
...learn how to identify shortcomings in your relationship and create a step-by-step plan how to re-create a happy and fulfilled relationship, should you wish to do so
...learn about different options for separation and divorce, and how to best prepare for separation and divorce, should you choose to go that way.
What You Can Expect
I will send you an email shortly to get you started with your toolbox. The email will come from karin@lovemultiverse.com.
Please make sure to whitelist my email address to ensure that you receive my emails.
The first email you will get from me will contain instructions how to access your personal relationship assessment. This assessment is truly the core of your toolbox, so please make sure you have a half hour of uninterrupted time to complete the assessment.
Once you have completed your assessment, I will create a personal relationship report and workbook for you. This part of your toolbox is completely personalized and tailored just to your situation. Please allow up to 10 business days for me to create your documents. I realize that you are likely impatient to get your results, and I’ll do my best to get your documents created as fast as possible.
You will then receive an email from me with a zip file that contains the eBooks, workbooks, and organizers that make up your toolbox.
If at any point you have any questions, please feel free to contact me at karin@lovemultiverse.com
All my best,
While You Wait...
In the meantime, I’d like to point you to the large relationship library that I have created for you.
Here are some selected articles you may find of interest:
Articles revolving around conflict
How to calm down quickly when you’re upset. Learn some easy techniques to calm down quickly when you need it
Why do people stay in unhappy relationships? Find out here.
“Musts” and “wants” to help you navigate your relationship. Learn to look out for your own as well as your partner’s interests by taking “musts” and “wants” into account.
Power balance in a relationship. Why it matters, how it works, and how to restore it. Plus: A power balance quiz.
Power imbalances in your relationship. 4 ways to make your relationship work anyway.
How to deal with tough conflicts. Learn about the step-down style to help you deal with conflicts
Do you have a toxic partner? Learn about the “dark triad” and take a quiz to see if you are with a toxic partner.
Are you lying to yourself about your relationship? Sometimes, relationship matters seem muddy and unclear because you do not allow yourself to see things as they really are. Do you dare to admit to yourself the truth about your relationship? Check it out here.
Your partner’s feelings and needs don’t match yours? 8 ways to deal with it.
Paranoid about your relationship? Suspicions may be healthy, paranoia is not. If you think you may feel somewhat paranoid, get advice here.
Do you keep returning to an abuser? Here are the signs of abuse, why victims return to their abuse, and how to break the cycle.
Is your partner always blaming you? Read here.
Self-sabotage! How fears create self-fulfilling prophecies, the cycle of self-sabotage, and how to prevent it. Includes an assessment.
How to deal with annoying habits of your partner. Not all annoying habits are alike -- there are five types. How you deal with them depends on the type. Includes a worksheet.
Annoying habits. Some ways to deal with them.
Are you with a narcissist? Here’s how to find out and what to do.
The path toward the end of your relationship. How dissolution cascades keep you going down, and how to prevent entering a dissolution cascade (or get out of it).
Have a destructive habit? Yes, you can change! The secret to changing it is to make a decision every single day. We’ve got some tips.
Power balance in a relationship. Why it matters, how it works, and how to restore it. Plus: A power balance quiz.
Control and power balance in relationships. The five ways in which power can be distributed in a relationship and how (or if) they work in the long term.
Power imbalances in your relationship. 4 ways to make your relationship work anyway.
Is your relationship “stuck?” 5 strategies.
One comment shattered your life. What to do.
Relationship trap: Actor-observer effect. You think and act differently when you make a mistake than when your partner makes a mistake. But you’re not aware of it.
Troublesome love stories. In our work, we have identified some love stories (that is, preconceptions, ideas, and beliefs about relationships) that often set couples up for failure.
Jealousy and envy. What it is and how to deal with it.
Persistent relationship problems that just won’t go away. 5 questions to ask.
Forgiveness. Some thoughts.
Infidelity/cheating – did you know there are actually different kinds of infidelity? Find out more here.
Infidelity/cheating. The top reasons people cheat and what you can do when it happens.
Abuse in relationships: People who get abused often go from one abusive relationship to the next. Why is that, and what you can do?
You think about your own shortcomings in a different way than about those of your partner. Psychology explains why we attribute different reasons to our own behavior than that of our partner, and what you can do about it.
You’ve started to see your relationship in a negative light. Here’s what might be going on and how you can change it.
Articles revolving around separation and divorce
Why do people stay in unhappy relationships? Find out here.
Do you have a toxic partner? Learn about the “dark triad” and take a quiz to see if you are with a toxic partner.
Paranoid about your relationship? Suspicions may be healthy, paranoia is not. If you think you may feel somewhat paranoid, get advice here.
Do you keep returning to an abuser? Here are the signs of abuse, why victims return to their abuse, and how to break the cycle.
This is how relationships end. Being aware of it can help you prevent relationship decay.
The path toward the end of your relationship. How dissolution cascades keep you going down, and how to prevent entering a dissolution cascade (or get out of it).
How to end a relationship. Do it right if you have to do it.
It’s over. 5 things to do and 5 things not to do.
Troublesome love stories. In our work, we have identified some love stories (that is, preconceptions, ideas, and beliefs about relationships) that often set couples up for failure.